Letting Go With Grace - Learn How To Let Go of Jealousy, Anger And Control

Many of us aren't taught how to let go of our most poisonous of emotions; anger, hate, jealousy, rage, envy, and the need to control others.

Learning to let go of these emotions can free you from the trauma that controls each day of your life and will release you to live your life with peace, calm, and joy. As easy as it may sound, learning to let go isn't an easy thing to do. The biggest barrier to your learning to control your emotions is your ability to accept that you can LEARN to manage your emotions more intelligently and effectively.

Through the process of examining your most debilitating emotions you can begin, one step at time, to change the way you perceive your environment and the people within your environment. If you are not open to the possibility of learning to manage your emotions and thoughts, you will keep repeating the same dramatic events throughout your entire life. Don't let yourself waste your chance to be happy. Move forward in your life and learn to let go so that you can look back down the road and know that you have no regrets.

Learning to let go of anger will change your life.  Are you angry?  Do you let anger eat you up?  Make the change you're seeking today.

Watch small children in your environment. When they're mad, the say so. When they're sad, they cry. As children, we are very open and forward with our emotions. This enables us to move on as soon as the emotion passes and not linger in the past. Children don't naturally hold grudges or dwell on the past. They embrace each moment for exactly what it is and move continuously towards the next moment. The youngest of children are the ones that speak the language of letting go.

As we grow older we learn to hold grudges, we learn to lose our trust of others, and we begin the process of "growing up". The elders in our environment are our teachers, they don't realize that while teaching us to grow up they may also be teaching us to harbor anger, resentment, jealousy, and a myriad of other negative emotions. Stress, anger, hate, and everything else negative seems to be accepted as a part of growing older and wiser. As adults, we are sadly mistaken in believing that we are wiser than our young children. Turn back and learn from the small children in your environment that are simply happy with their life; with the simple things that are given each day. This may seem a very simplistic idea, but the reality is that being happy and emotionally stable is as simple as going back, mentally, to our childhood and losing all of the adult implications that we've grown accustomed to.

If you've ever found yourself in a position where you can't let go of something that's happened in your life and it's eating away at you, know that you can change this feeling and come to terms with it. Letting go of fear, letting go of jealousy, letting go of stress; this can all be accomplished!

How I Began Letting Go

I can honestly tell you that there was a time in my life that other people's lack of ethics, lack of morals, and constant turmoil took a very serious emotional toil on every moment of my day. Before I even realized what was taking place, I was becoming a very different person. My sense of peace, calm and happiness faded away without my realizing it. The impact that I allowed others to have on my emotional stability changed my life very negatively.

I thought I had no control over this process. I was wrong. Thankfully, before it was too late and before I had let too much of my life continue in this miserable state, I made a commitment to change the way I let others impact my life. This wasn't a quick process, maybe it can happen quicker for others, but that's not how it happened for me. I began with some techniques and theories that are taught in The Four Agreements. This little boxed set of 3 books changed how my mind controls my thoughts and beliefs. I began to realize that I'd created a bad habit of living negatively and my life, in turn, had become very negative.

This realization and power to control my peace of mind doesn't change the fact that there are all types of people in our lives and many of them aren't beneficial to our peace of mind. Learning to accept that everyone has their own issues and learning to forgive their faults along with my own has changed every part of my life. I am calmer, freer in expressing myself, and fully responsible for my choices. This, in turn, has helped me to be less quick to judge and has eliminated jealousy, envy and anger from my days. I don't feel the need to control others in my environment whether I seriously disagree with their behavior or not.

This is not to say that I simply ignore unethical behavior or other issues that arise on a day to day basis. I simply make my choice to stand up for what I believe in whether it negatively impacts someone else or not. Short of that, I remove continuously toxic people from my life. There is no need to participate in someone's life that constantly brings negativity to your own life. I have learned that if an individual continually brings pain or negativity to your life, why do you feel that you must continue this relationship? Move on. It's better for all involved.

Each of us always has a choice to make in every situation. Learning to make the right choice for the right reasons is skill that will be invaluable in your life. Start with the simple steps laid out in The Four Agreements. These steps teach you to value your word, value your relationships, and value yourself.

Each day, you will struggle in the beginning. It's very difficult to break the patterns that we've accumulated throughout our lives. Start with baby steps. You'll be amazed at the difference even the simplest of success will make in your day.

If you're having relationship issues that are consuming your life and you can't let him go or let her go, you need to read these books and apply the principals that are taught. You will learn to live your life with acceptance and grace. It's painless to begin reading and studying. Make the effort to apply the principals behind the theory. You'll refer back to these books constantly as you make progress. My copies are tattered and stained and I will refer to them forever.

Letting go of the past is the first major hurdle you will leap.  The sense of freedom you will feel after coming to terms and understanding with your past will propel you forward to learn more.  I am constantly amazed that we so easily can change our ability to deal with life once we gather good information and do the hard work of recognizing our own pitfalls.